Casual Sex

Shocking Ways NSA Sex Will Make You Better In Bed

Although taboo, NSA sex has a funny way of making you a better lover in bed. Why not find out the shocking ways how…?

Everyone thinks that NSA sex is a mindless activity – the act of two people coming together and just meeting up for sex and nothing else. There’s something pretty primal about the act, it must be said, but that’s not the be-all and end-all of the situation. Believe it or not, NSA sex CAN and WILL make you BETTER in bed!

Take Kate and Robert, for example. Kate is a student living at the University of Cape Town, and Robert is too. Kate had a pretty steady boyfriend that she’d been dating for a couple of years, but she wondered if she was missing out on something by not having as many sexual experiences as her partner. He had slept with over ten women, and she had only ever slept with him.

They broke it off for a summer to see if their relationship was “meant to be”, and Kate took no time at all in signing up to an NSA dating website in South Africa, and letting her hair down.

She met up with James and had been casually dating him for a couple of months. She had never given her boyfriend successful oral sex, and she wanted to learn how to do it. James happily let her practice away, giving her help and advice where appropriate, and she gradually became a lot better at it.

The moral of this story is that although Kate and Robert got back together, got married, and are currently expecting their first child, she learned a lot in that summer they had broken up. She learned a lot about herself and the way she liked to be touched, as well as learning a lot about what men like. After all, how can you know what to expect if you’ve only ever done it the same way, with the same person?

Of course, this is not something that would work for every couple, and I personally know of at least three couples that have broken down entirely trying the same approach. However, in some situations NSA sex CAN and WILL make you BETTER in bed.

Some people try their hand at casual dating for more sexual experience. Some use it because they don’t really fancy a proper long-term relationship. Some don’t have the time for a full-term relationship. It doesn’t matter the reason behind it, there is always a chance to learn and grow as long as you are openminded about things.

You can learn a lot about “different” sex. For example, during that summer they spent apart, Kate dated a guy called Aidan, who liked to tie her up and play with her body, driving her to distraction. This is something that she subtly hinted to Robert when they got back together, and in the end, they found something they both loved, that actually managed to boost their relationship, both in the bedroom, and out of it. She learnt to trust him a lot more, letting him tie her up and having his wicked way with her, and he learned new ways to pleasure her, bringing home the fact that he was still the best lover she had ever had. They grew together and as they grew, they learned.

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He Did What 7 Secrets About Sex

Want to make sure she comes back for more? These 7 secrets about sex will leave her begging for more…

I recently had the most amazing experience with a casual guy I happened to be “sex dating” recently and honestly, I felt the overwhelming urge to tell you about it. If there were to be a list of things that women wish men did in the bedroom, this guy would have ticked them all off. He was one of the most sensational lovers I’ve ever had in my life. For now, we’ll call him Jonaid. After the South African-born model, actor, and nutritionist, Jonaid Carrera! 😉

I won’t keep you holding on for long. In fact, I’ll just jump right in. The 7 secrets about sex that every guy should know… but normally don’t know!

1 – Focus!

This guy paid complete attention to me. There was no TV show on in the background, just quiet music with a steady, slow beat. There were candles lit and no lights on. The lighting was flattering which lead to me becoming much more comfortable. The scent of the vanilla scented candles sent a smell of lust throughout the room. When you added the steady and slow beat of the music, I was in my comfort zone and he could have done anything he wanted. It’s cliche but it’s true – give a girl your full attention and you’ll play her body like a guitar! 😉

2 – Foreplay!

This is important, regardless of what anyone says. In fact, many women will actually openly admit to her orgasm coming from the foreplay and not the actual act of sex itself. Instead of thinking of foreplay as the lead-up to something else, why not think of it as the main attraction from time to time. If you want to make her climax, you’re going to need to preheat the oven.

3 – Safe Sex!

Jonaid pulled out a condom before I had even had a chance to think about it. And he showed no worries about putting it on at the crucial moment either. The fact that he had everything sorted meant that I could relax a whole load more, instead of building ourselves up to a crucial moment and having the moment ruined by a panic situation. Do you have them? Do I have them? Seriously? You don’t have any…?

4 – Avoid the Clitoris!

Ok, I don’t mean that literally. Clearly you can’t avoid it altogether if you want to make her climax. But… you don’t need to directly touch it to stimulate it. The clit itself isn’t the main attraction when you consider that it actually extends a couple of inches further down under the skin, and the whole area is filled with nerve endings that, when played correctly, could lead to an earth-shattering orgasm. If she’s trying to get away from your tongue or finger, let her. She’s trying to guide you to where it feels better for her. That’s exactly what Jonaid did for me. He let me guide his tongue to where I needed it the most. It’s an awesome feeling.

5 – Wear Socks!

You don’t have to wear socks if you don’t want to, but you should look at making things a bit warmer. In clinical studies, women at room temperature only orgasmed in around half of all “ideal” situations. When they were warmed up slightly, and their bodies were played in exactly in the same manner, eighty percent of the worn found they could orgasm. There’s nothing wrong with wrapping her up warm! Or getting yourselves all hot and sweaty before the “main” attraction!

6 – Move It!

Don’t stick to tradition when it comes to finding the perfect position. We all know that each girl is different, but for me, missionary position provides the perfect situation. Rather than bumpin’ & grindin’, you should both move your hips in circles. Things glide so much easier in this motion, and will lead the way to a pretty good “O” if you concentrate for long enough! 😉

7 – Orgasm is NOT a luxury!

Jonaid kept going until I came to climax, and I will never forget him for it. The orgasm club isn’t a members-only one, so if she hasn’t come to climax, you guys haven’t done your job right, and shouldn’t stop. Unless she tells you to, of course. There comes a point where things just get sore.

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Doing Casual Sex The Right Way

Casual sex – is there really a right and wrong approach to finding it? And getting it right?

Casual sex is not really considered the “norm” so it’s hardly the type of conversation that you can have with your “regular” friends. How are you meant to tell your recently coupled-up best mate that you’ve had three different women (or men) in the last week, and each one was completely different from the one before? Most men could only ever dream of something like that, and most of them wouldn’t exactly have the balls to actually act on it shout the situation arise. It’s tough to know where to go for advice, right?

A lot of my new casual dating friends have asked me various questions over the last couple of years so I’ve decided to come up with an FAQ of sorts… I hope it helps you like its helped them! 🙂

How do I make sure my wife doesn’t find out?

Right, clearly this applies to anyone indulging in a bit of extra-curricular activity… There are a few rules to think about here:

Don’t do it where you live. It doesn’t get any simpler than that really. If you want to get caught, go for dates with your casual lovers in the pubs that you regularly drink in, or stay at hotels where you know the people that work there. That’s a ridiculous idea. If you live in Fairview, for example, move outside of the area to have your illicit encounters. What about moving a little further towards Port Elizabeth? Let’s say Port Elizabeth Central. Even further if you can manage it.

Don’t leave messages on your phone. Don’t Go home with lipstick on your collar. Don’t leave without showering and go home to her smelling like another woman’s perfume. This is easy-peasy stuff guys and girls, you should already be getting this bit right.

Don’t let the other person have control. Clearly this is important – if they call the shots all the time, naming the place, specifying the time and date, etc. you run the risk of getting carried along for a wild and bumpy ride. At all times, try to keep things on an even keel… More often that not, the one that is left hanging is the one that starts to develop feelings… #JustSaying

Always be straight and upfront with your new lover. This means that they will need to know about the wife at home. What’s the point in lying anyway? They are bound to find out sooner or later, and there’s no chance of the two of you ever having a relationship so what’s to hide. If it’s just a bit of adult casual dating you are both after, neither of you will be overly concerned with what the other is doing in their spare time.

Try to keep things simple. This should go without saying really – the more complex your lies, the harder they are going to be to remember. Keep things simple and just tty to avoid getting caught. If you have started “working late” a lot recently, but your wife just happens to be best friends with your boss, you are going to get caught. Women are smarter than you’d think… they’ll find a way to catch you out. You just need to try and stay one step ahead of the game. That’s the trick behind it! 😉

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Casual Sex Dating Taboos You Should Break

Fancy dipping your toes in the casual sex dating world? Here are some of the biggest taboos that you should break!

Let’s face it; it might be 2015 but casual sex dating is still very much considered to be a taboo. If women indulge in a spot of NSA fun, they are considered to be “easy” or any one of the “bad” words that you’ve probably already heard of. If a guy does it, he gets a slap on the back from his buddies, and every one celebrates with a nice cold beer in their local Bethelsdorp bar.

You can’t deny that double standards still exist, but male and female alike, there are certain taboos that you SHOULD and WILL break through when you enter the realms of the casual sex dating worlds. One thing is most definitely for sure – your life is about to change if you’ve never given this a shot before.

It is bad to sleep with someone on the first date…

Really? Is it really that big a deal if a woman opens her legs on the first date? If she has fun, and he has fun, and it’s consensual, enjoyable sex, who really cares whether or not its the fifth date, or the first?

You should never swap names or phone numbers…

Okay, so if you are cheating on a long term partner (or even short term), giving out real names, Facebook web pages and phone numbers is probably not the best idea in the world. There’s a good chance that you are going to get caught if you leave a paper trail. However, if you are a single pringle, enjoying a few nights out as a single guy or gal, swap names, phone numbers, email address, whatever you want. It could become a regular thing. This doesn’t mean a boyfriend or girlfriend situation; this means a regular casual sex thing with someone that you actually like, and knows how to work you in the bedroom.

Casual sex is dirty…

This is just ridiculous. Most of us have had just as naughty experiences with long term partners, if not naughtier, than they do with the casual sex partners they come across. Admittedly some people out there find it easier to bare their sexual preferences with someone they barely know, but for the most part, there is very little “dirty” (in the bad way) about casual sex dating.

Enjoying great sex can hardly be seen as dirty, can it?

Casual sex dating is just shagging a whole load of different people…

Some casual daters have the same sexual partners for years in a row, barely even thinking about sleeping with anyone else. Just because you are just sleeping with one person, doesn’t mean that it’s evolving into a relationship. You can casually date someone for ever… In fact, most people would probably prefer this. Imagine not needing to go through a breakup!

You can’t learn anything emotionally…

Casual sex dating is MORE beneficial if you want to learn about love, sex, lust and relationships. You will learn about a lot of different people, and you will learn a lot of different lessons, both in the bedroom and out of it. You won’t be hurting anyone’s feelings by choosing to be upfront about your casual dating, and that’s a good thing because honesty is something rarely found these days.

There are a lot of taboos surrounding the topic of casual sex dating but just remember this – gay dating was once seen as a taboo, and they are now allowed to get married in some places! Evolution of relationships – could casual sex dating actually be the future?

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7 Ways Sex Is Completely Overrated

Sex – it’s a lot of work and many people don’t even enjoy it that much. Taking a closer look & here’s seven ways that we’ve shown sex is completely overrated.

Sex… It’s a topic of conversation that is bound to divide opinion. We’re sleeping around too much or we’re not getting it enough. We’re worried about whether we are doing it right, or whether the other person is actually enjoying it. Should we wear this? Should we try that? Are we really meant to stick that in there?!

Sex brings with it a thousand and one thoughts, and will create arguments between otherwise rational people. There is no denying that the physical act of sex itself is pleasurable. Most of us probably wouldn’t even bother doing it if it wasn’t. But sex… is it completely overrated?

Let’s bear in mind that most relationships will start with the couple enjoying bountiful amounts of sex. They’ll be at it like bunnies in those first throes of romance, bonking at every possible opportunity, and spreading their wild seeds all over Algoa Park, but when it comes to happily settling down in New Brighton, with a dog, three kids and a mortgage to mountain, sex goes out the window. Could this be that in the grand scheme of things, sex IS overrated? And that there are so many more important things in life to worry about than the act of sex alone?

Sex is overrated because it’s a lot of hassle. There’s the shaving of the legs, or the hair-removal of the *cough* testicles. Come on guys – admit it. You’ve all done it. You primp and preen for a night of passion, but in reality, you get a drunken fumble in the back of the taxi, heading home from that hip Port Elizabeth bar you happened to find them in.

Sex is overrated because we rarely get it right. Let’s be honest about this shall we, most of us have faked it at one point or another with a partner… Whether we are male or female, we must all hold our hands up and say that we’ve done it at least the month. We rarely get it right and you know what; it’s okay. Our bodies aren’t machines. They are designed to be played like a piano. They don’t work in predictable ways. Therefore sex won’t be as you predicted. You might climax too soon, or not climax at all. Things go wrong.

Sex is overrated because it’s a lot of work. Come on guys – think about the hard work you need to put in when you are happily pounding away at your woman. After a while your knees start to hurt, and your muscles in your arms start to give way. The same goes the other way with the girls – your abs are killing because you’ve spent your entire time sucking your own stomach in. It’s not a lot of fun after a while, and it sure is a lot of hard work. Just think of the calories you are burning off! 😉

Sex is overrated because you have to start doing new things to enjoy the “sparkle”. You read it everywhere don’t you – spice up your sex life. Wear naughty lingerie. Buy sex toys. Start using scenarios like two strangers in a bar. Putting things up your… You get the idea, right? Using your imagination that much just feels like a lot of work sometimes.

Sex is overrated because there are so many other important things in life. I guess that’s enough said really… We all know how that one feels.

Sex is overrated because there are so many other ways to indulge in that intimacy. Sometimes a well-timed cuddle will do.

Sex is overrated because it really isn’t that important. There are many happy couples out there that have been together for years and years and years, and haven’t had sex for many of them. Maybe, just maybe, if you took the stress and hassle of sex out of the equation, life would be a lot simpler… and perhaps much more relaxed too.

I certainly wouldn’t turn it down though! 😉

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