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Doing Casual Sex The Right Way

Casual sex – is there really a right and wrong approach to finding it? And getting it right?

Casual sex is not really considered the “norm” so it’s hardly the type of conversation that you can have with your “regular” friends. How are you meant to tell your recently coupled-up best mate that you’ve had three different women (or men) in the last week, and each one was completely different from the one before? Most men could only ever dream of something like that, and most of them wouldn’t exactly have the balls to actually act on it shout the situation arise. It’s tough to know where to go for advice, right?

A lot of my new casual dating friends have asked me various questions over the last couple of years so I’ve decided to come up with an FAQ of sorts… I hope it helps you like its helped them! 🙂

How do I make sure my wife doesn’t find out?

Right, clearly this applies to anyone indulging in a bit of extra-curricular activity… There are a few rules to think about here:

Don’t do it where you live. It doesn’t get any simpler than that really. If you want to get caught, go for dates with your casual lovers in the pubs that you regularly drink in, or stay at hotels where you know the people that work there. That’s a ridiculous idea. If you live in Fairview, for example, move outside of the area to have your illicit encounters. What about moving a little further towards Port Elizabeth? Let’s say Port Elizabeth Central. Even further if you can manage it.

Don’t leave messages on your phone. Don’t Go home with lipstick on your collar. Don’t leave without showering and go home to her smelling like another woman’s perfume. This is easy-peasy stuff guys and girls, you should already be getting this bit right.

Don’t let the other person have control. Clearly this is important – if they call the shots all the time, naming the place, specifying the time and date, etc. you run the risk of getting carried along for a wild and bumpy ride. At all times, try to keep things on an even keel… More often that not, the one that is left hanging is the one that starts to develop feelings… #JustSaying

Always be straight and upfront with your new lover. This means that they will need to know about the wife at home. What’s the point in lying anyway? They are bound to find out sooner or later, and there’s no chance of the two of you ever having a relationship so what’s to hide. If it’s just a bit of adult casual dating you are both after, neither of you will be overly concerned with what the other is doing in their spare time.

Try to keep things simple. This should go without saying really – the more complex your lies, the harder they are going to be to remember. Keep things simple and just tty to avoid getting caught. If you have started “working late” a lot recently, but your wife just happens to be best friends with your boss, you are going to get caught. Women are smarter than you’d think… they’ll find a way to catch you out. You just need to try and stay one step ahead of the game. That’s the trick behind it! 😉

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Casual Sex Dating Taboos You Should Break

Fancy dipping your toes in the casual sex dating world? Here are some of the biggest taboos that you should break!

Let’s face it; it might be 2015 but casual sex dating is still very much considered to be a taboo. If women indulge in a spot of NSA fun, they are considered to be “easy” or any one of the “bad” words that you’ve probably already heard of. If a guy does it, he gets a slap on the back from his buddies, and every one celebrates with a nice cold beer in their local Bethelsdorp bar.

You can’t deny that double standards still exist, but male and female alike, there are certain taboos that you SHOULD and WILL break through when you enter the realms of the casual sex dating worlds. One thing is most definitely for sure – your life is about to change if you’ve never given this a shot before.

It is bad to sleep with someone on the first date…

Really? Is it really that big a deal if a woman opens her legs on the first date? If she has fun, and he has fun, and it’s consensual, enjoyable sex, who really cares whether or not its the fifth date, or the first?

You should never swap names or phone numbers…

Okay, so if you are cheating on a long term partner (or even short term), giving out real names, Facebook web pages and phone numbers is probably not the best idea in the world. There’s a good chance that you are going to get caught if you leave a paper trail. However, if you are a single pringle, enjoying a few nights out as a single guy or gal, swap names, phone numbers, email address, whatever you want. It could become a regular thing. This doesn’t mean a boyfriend or girlfriend situation; this means a regular casual sex thing with someone that you actually like, and knows how to work you in the bedroom.

Casual sex is dirty…

This is just ridiculous. Most of us have had just as naughty experiences with long term partners, if not naughtier, than they do with the casual sex partners they come across. Admittedly some people out there find it easier to bare their sexual preferences with someone they barely know, but for the most part, there is very little “dirty” (in the bad way) about casual sex dating.

Enjoying great sex can hardly be seen as dirty, can it?

Casual sex dating is just shagging a whole load of different people…

Some casual daters have the same sexual partners for years in a row, barely even thinking about sleeping with anyone else. Just because you are just sleeping with one person, doesn’t mean that it’s evolving into a relationship. You can casually date someone for ever… In fact, most people would probably prefer this. Imagine not needing to go through a breakup!

You can’t learn anything emotionally…

Casual sex dating is MORE beneficial if you want to learn about love, sex, lust and relationships. You will learn about a lot of different people, and you will learn a lot of different lessons, both in the bedroom and out of it. You won’t be hurting anyone’s feelings by choosing to be upfront about your casual dating, and that’s a good thing because honesty is something rarely found these days.

There are a lot of taboos surrounding the topic of casual sex dating but just remember this – gay dating was once seen as a taboo, and they are now allowed to get married in some places! Evolution of relationships – could casual sex dating actually be the future?

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7 Ways Sex Is Completely Overrated

Sex – it’s a lot of work and many people don’t even enjoy it that much. Taking a closer look & here’s seven ways that we’ve shown sex is completely overrated.

Sex… It’s a topic of conversation that is bound to divide opinion. We’re sleeping around too much or we’re not getting it enough. We’re worried about whether we are doing it right, or whether the other person is actually enjoying it. Should we wear this? Should we try that? Are we really meant to stick that in there?!

Over National Flag Of South Africa Showed Heart And Love GestureSex brings with it a thousand and one thoughts, and will create arguments between otherwise rational people. There is no denying that the physical act of sex itself is pleasurable. Most of us probably wouldn’t even bother doing it if it wasn’t. But sex… is it completely overrated?

Let’s bear in mind that most relationships will start with the couple enjoying bountiful amounts of sex. They’ll be at it like bunnies in those first throes of romance, bonking at every possible opportunity, and spreading their wild seeds all over Algoa Park, but when it comes to happily settling down in New Brighton, with a dog, three kids and a mortgage to mountain, sex goes out the window. Could this be that in the grand scheme of things, sex IS overrated? And that there are so many more important things in life to worry about than the act of sex alone?

Sex is overrated because it’s a lot of hassle. There’s the shaving of the legs, or the hair-removal of the *cough* testicles. Come on guys – admit it. You’ve all done it. You primp and preen for a night of passion, but in reality, you get a drunken fumble in the back of the taxi, heading home from that hip Port Elizabeth bar you happened to find them in.

Sex is overrated because we rarely get it right. Let’s be honest about this shall we, most of us have faked it at one point or another with a partner… Whether we are male or female, we must all hold our hands up and say that we’ve done it at least the month. We rarely get it right and you know what; it’s okay. Our bodies aren’t machines. They are designed to be played like a piano. They don’t work in predictable ways. Therefore sex won’t be as you predicted. You might climax too soon, or not climax at all. Things go wrong.

Sex is overrated because it’s a lot of work. Come on guys – think about the hard work you need to put in when you are happily pounding away at your woman. After a while your knees start to hurt, and your muscles in your arms start to give way. The same goes the other way with the girls – your abs are killing because you’ve spent your entire time sucking your own stomach in. It’s not a lot of fun after a while, and it sure is a lot of hard work. Just think of the calories you are burning off! 😉

Sex is overrated because you have to start doing new things to enjoy the “sparkle”. You read it everywhere don’t you – spice up your sex life. Wear naughty lingerie. Buy sex toys. Start using scenarios like two strangers in a bar. Putting things up your… You get the idea, right? Using your imagination that much just feels like a lot of work sometimes.

Sex is overrated because there are so many other important things in life. I guess that’s enough said really… We all know how that one feels.

Sex is overrated because there are so many other ways to indulge in that intimacy. Sometimes a well-timed cuddle will do.

Sex is overrated because it really isn’t that important. There are many happy couples out there that have been together for years and years and years, and haven’t had sex for many of them. Maybe, just maybe, if you took the stress and hassle of sex out of the equation, life would be a lot simpler… and perhaps much more relaxed too.

I certainly wouldn’t turn it down though! 😉